Navigating the Waves: A Perinatal Mental Health Journey
As a perinatal mental health therapist, I often find myself immersed in the incredible journey of motherhood—the highs, the lows, and everything in between. It's a journey filled with love, joy, and profound transformation, but let's face it, it can also be a rollercoaster of emotions, doubts, and fears.
Today, I want to dive into the heart of the matter and share some insights, tips, and maybe even a little bit of encouragement for all you amazing mothers out there navigating the waves of perinatal mental health.
mom guilt
First things first, let's talk about the elephant in the room—mom guilt. Oh, how it loves to rear its ugly head, whispering doubts and insecurities into our ears. But guess what?
You are doing an incredible job! Yes, you!
Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by the demands of motherhood or questioning your every move, know that it's okay to ask for help. In fact, it's more than okay—it's essential.
Reach out to your support system, lean on your loved ones, and don't be afraid to seek professional support if you need it. You are certainly not alone on this journey..
refilling your cup
Next up, let's chat about self-care. Ah, yes, that elusive concept that seems to slip through our fingers more often than not.
But here's the thing—you cannot pour from an empty cup.
Take a moment (or several) to prioritize your own well-being. Whether it's indulging in a hot bath, going for a walk, or simply taking a few deep breaths, find what nourishes your soul and make it a non-negotiable part of your routine.
Also to add, there’s something to be said about that good ol’ vitamin D. Getting outside can make a world of difference. I used to take my son for a walk about the neighborhood every. single. day. And it made me feel like a human again!
“DO NOT DISTURB”
Now, onto the topic of boundaries. Boundaries: the unsung heroes of self-preservation.
As mothers, we often feel the pressure to do it all, be it all, and please everyone. But it's okay to say no! It's okay to set boundaries that protect your time, energy, and sanity.
Remember, you are not obligated to be everything to everyone. Your well-being matters too.
Give yourself breaks. Communicate with your partners or other family members about sharing household chores and childcare duties. Now is not the time to worry about having a spotless house.
your network of sanity savers
Last but certainly not least, let's talk about the power of connection. As human beings, we thrive on connection—it's in our DNA.
So, reach out! Connect with other moms who understand the journey you're on. Share your experiences, your struggles, and your triumphs. You never know who might be in need of your words of wisdom or who might offer you a lifeline when you need it most.
Your partner and/or family members may also be a good source of support. Have a trusted person watch your baby while you take a nap. That sleep deprivation in the early days is no joke… Ask for help!
You might also consider hiring help. Postpartum doulas are available to offer support for both mom and baby. Nannies can be supportive. Have a cleaner come by once or twice a month just to make sure you have some clean dishes to eat off of and clean laundry to wear. Hire a therapist to support your mental health. Support is out there, you just need to look.
So, there you have it—a little glimpse into the world of perinatal mental health from someone who's been there, done that, and continues to learn and grow every single day.
Remember you are stronger than you know, braver than you think, and more loved than you can imagine. Keep riding those waves, knowing that smoother seas are on the horizon.
